S2E13 - Getting Clarity on Your Destiny w/ Dr. Mike Cafarchio

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We’re wrapping up Season 2 of Dynamic destiny with a special episode where my guest, Dr. Mike Cafarchio, shares his journey of how he arrived at his calling in life. 

Mike is a Hospice and Palliative Medicine physician in Baltimore, MD, where he cares for kids and adults on some of their most difficult days and frequently grapples with life-and-death issues.

I love Mike’s story because 1) he’s my nephew and I’m super proud of him, and 2) it touches on so many of the principles we’ve been covering this podcast - assessments, passion, feedback from others, trying different things, overcoming his own hurdles, and incorporating spiritual connection & values.

In addition to his work as a physician, Mike is also a husband, #girldad, amateur baker and Philly sports enthusiast.

You can follow Mike on Twitter: @MCafarch

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S2E12 - Leaning Into your Passion

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For this week’s podcast I had the privilege of interviewing a friend and recording artist, Greg G The Goldenchild. His energy is infectious!

Part of fulfilling your destiny is identifying your passion, and then pursuing it - sacrificially if needed. And that’s why I thought of Greg. He’s one of those artists who sincerely tries to connect with his audience, and you can feel the encouragement he’s always giving out when he performs. Check out one of his videos to see what I mean.

He also gives people a “possibilities” mindset. I’ve even consulted him on some of my own work when I’ve gotten stuck.

Greg shares some great stories and powerful life lessons in this episode, so listen in and be inspired.

Follow Greg through any of these links:
https://instagram.com/goheadgreg
https://twitter.com/GoHeadGreg
https://m.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100046417338583
https://open.spotify.com/artist/36LaUNcRY0V2KYbXqxgbyS
https://music.apple.com/us/artist/greg-g-the-goldenchild/1017835888
https://youtube.com/user/GregG210TV
https://m.soundcloud.com/goheadgreg

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S2E11 - Finding Your Big "Why"

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Recently when meeting with a group of fellow coaches, my colleague, Doug Osness, walked us through a process to get our life purpose (our big “WHY”) reduced down to just three words.

Truth be told I was a little skeptical. I’ve been through some of these exercises before with forgettable results. But the way Doug framed it and the results that I got - WOW! It really helped bring clarity to my mind. And just saying those words out loud resonated with the destiny in my inner man.

Doug unpacks his process in the week’s podcast, and also explains why your biggest gift to the world is often buried under your greatest pain. I’m eager to have you experience his contagious enthusiasm.

Doug and his wife, Glenda, are giving away two, free 60-minute discovery calls, so you might want to check out their website and contact them if you think they’d be a good match for you.

www.secondtierconsulting.com
dosness@gmail.com  - 303-960-6784

By the way, my three words are: Activate Pioneering Transformation

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S2E10 - Your "Test" Can Become Your Testimony

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In this series, we’ve been examining how different inherent factors shape your destiny. But what about the events that derail your plans? Can tragedy, trauma, abuse and accidents stop you from fulfilling your destiny?

It all depends on your perspective.

My friend, Wes Anderson is no stranger to difficulty. When he was born, the doctors only gave him a 5% chance to live. His wife of 12 years has muscular dystrophy and is wheelchair bound. Yet Wes is determined to learn from life’s troubles so he can invest in others and be a problem-solver.

In this week’s podcast Wes shares some of his stories as well as powerful wisdom principles that can help you view life’s setbacks from a different perspective.

You can contact Wes at wes@clarionsolutiongroup.com

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S2E9 - What Your Past Wants You to Know

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Did you ever have a moment in your past when you sensed an internal spark? A time when you knew you were tapping into one of your innate talents? When you were operating in your “zone” and felt fully alive?

In this week’s podcast I talk about a time when that happened for me. It’s when both my love for communicating and my ability to see different perspectives came together at an opportune moment. It was like I was listening to myself talk as an audience member instead of as the speaker.

Maybe something like that happened for you while you were playing a sport. Or maybe you applied yourself to a project and were really proud of the result. Did you once try something beyond your ability only to discover that you had hidden talents, didn’t give up, and ultimately silenced all the naysayers?

These are all moments from your past that are sending you powerful clues about your destiny. The problem is, they get buried amid all the negativity, failures, and mundane obligations of everyday living.

In this episode I’ll show you a powerful exercise that helps you identify those clues, and then string them together to point a path to your destiny. I also tell some encouraging stories from my clients who have gone through the process.

As always, I’m cheering you on to achieve your God-given potential so you can make the most impact in the world. Let me know how it’s helped you askpete@petecoaching.com

Links and resources:

• http://www.petecoaching.com/online-course

• Book: What Color is Your Parachute, Richard Bolles

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S2E8 - How to Promote Yourself Without the Hype - guest: Rick Diana

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Last week’s episode (The Importance of Owning Your Talents) brought an unexpected number of comments and feedback. Apparently, this is something many of us struggle with.

This week we get more practical with my guest and friend, Rick Diana. Rick is a talent agent for business professionals and a consummate networker. He’ll provide you with helpful mindsets and practical things you can do to promote yourself without the offensive “hype” that no one likes.

Keep pushing yourself to fully own your talents and position yourself in a way that highlights your value. It might challenge your current comfort level, but it’s worth it.

Links and resources from this episode:

• Rick Diana - https://www.linkedin.com/in/talentmgmt/

• Trinitas Talent Management https://trinitastalent.com/

• Extraordinary Job Seekers https://www.linkedin.com/groups/12399193/

• How to ask other people what you’re good at https://bit.ly/3rU0cSG

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S2E7 - The Importance of Owning Your Talents

I grew up in a large family of competitive, talented people with big personalities. We achieved well in academics and music, and the peer pressure to “live up to the family name” drove us to excel and win many awards.

But one phrase you’d often hear from my family and religious upbringing was “don’t get a big head.” The clear message was that basking in your own glory would lead to arrogance. One way to counter that temptation was to be hard on yourself. Maybe that would cut you down to size, and it could motivate you to try even harder. Can you relate?

Years of life experience have taught me that this is not a productive approach. It’s much healthier to embrace and celebrate the talents that make you stand out. That takes courage, and it doesn’t need to result in arrogance. In fact, once you reconcile with your own greatness, it actually frees you up to get your eyes off yourself and serve others, unencumbered.

In this week’s podcast we’ll unpack the unintended downside of not embracing your talents, and what you can do to start moving forward.

I’d love to hear if and how you deal with this dynamic in your life. Comment below, or write to me at askpete@petecoaching.com

Free tools referenced in this episode:

• Uncover your blind spots: http://www.petecoaching.com/blindspot

• True Humility poster for download https://bit.ly/3jqjgoR

• Thoughts on true Humility http://www.petecoaching.com/blog/2018/8/2/true-humility

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S2E6 - Personality Tests and Self Awareness

I’ll never forget the first personality assessment I took and how much the results intrigued me. Lynn and I were newly married, took the Myers Briggs Type Indicator and reviewed the results with a certified counselor.

I remember being floored that the results showed I had an unfair advantage in taking standardized tests. I already knew that to be true, but this explained the “why.” It predicted that Lynn had a natural love of languages (she knew 4 at the time), and could appreciate quirky personalities (ahem). How could a simple test reveal such specific personality traits?

A few years later I was introduced to DISC, and then the Motivational Gifts assessment, which added further layers to my understanding. They also fueled my natural interest in what makes each person unique, and how they could maximize their strengths. All of this was before I ever even heard of coaching.

Now, I use assessments with many of my coaching clients. But I’m also well aware of their limitations and potential drawbacks. They’re not meant to explain everything, but they can serve as a useful tool to round out the full picture of your design and destiny.

In this podcast episode I’ll take you deeper into personality assessment tools (including the Enneagram) with my guest, Nathan Hubbard.

If you’ve taken an assessment, let me know what your personal experience has been.

Show notes:

0:42 “Personality begins where comparison ends”
2:00 Improve Your Emotional Intelligence
4:40 Some of the different assessments
8:20 Assessment limitations
11:08 No excuses!
12:30 Coaching Stories
18:44 Guest intro: Nathan Hubbard
22:08 The Survivor TV show is Enneagram on display
26:07 Make it real challenge

Guest, Nathan Hubbard www.nathanhubbardmusic.com

Links to assessments:

• Myers/Briggs or 16 Personalities https://www.16personalities.com/

• Enneagram Site to learn more: https://www.enneagraminstitute.com/how-the-enneagram-system-works take the free test: https://enneagramtest.net/

• Motivational Gifts: https://www.gifttest.org/

• DISC Free test: https://www.123test.com/disc-personality-test/

• DISC Paid: https://www.discprofile.com/what-is-disc/overview/

• Gallup CliftonStrengths https://store.gallup.com/p/en-us/10003/cliftonstrengths-34 To interpret CliftonStrengths, go to WeAlign Coaching https://www.wealigncoaching.com

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S2E5 - Seeing Past Your Blind Spots

I’ve found that one of the biggest stumbling blocks to my Emotional Intelligence is a lack of self-awareness. 

Jesus addresses this all-too-human tendency in Matthew 7: “Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye?” Easily see everyone else’s faults - oblivious to my own. Yikes.

I tend to be an intense person, rapidly processing my next thoughts, calculating different scenarios, and connecting lots of big concepts - all at the same time! When that gets verbalized, the result can be overwhelming for the listener. (My wife, Lynn, with eyeballs rolling whispers, “understatement!”)

Of course all this is unintended, because my intent is to build warm connections with other people. But with a lifelong history of social mis-queues, I’ve learned to read people better and ask them how I’m coming across. I need that kind of feedback to keep me on track. Sometimes the feedback is painful, but it’s how I learn and grow.

This is one of the reasons clients retain me as a coach. I can (gently) point out their blind spot in a safe setting, and then we can process through it together with no judgment. The result is improved performance when they get back in the game at work or at home.

The other type of blindspot is when you don’t appreciate your exceptional talents. In this podcast episode I highlight that aspect and give you some practical exercises to gain better self-awareness and make a bigger impact in the world.

Let me know if you gain any new insights.

Highlights:
0:37 “The most common blind spot is believing that others have them, but you don’t”
2:18 Imagine a dinner table full of 8 competitive kids interrupting each other
6:03 Other people can see you more clearly than you can see yourself
7:45 Self-coaching exercises
15:08 Wrap up

Links:
Free download - what everyone else sees about your Destiny www.petecoaching.com/blindspot
Decoding Your Destiny online course http://www.petecoaching.com/online-course

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Making Sense of the Racial Justice Movement

I recently recorded a special message to address the current state of chaos around racial injustice and the accompanying protests.

In it, I have some encouragements that might help you understand how things are shaking out from a global/kingdom perspective, as well as some practical takeaways to help you navigate this season. 

Let me know your thoughts in the comments section below.